I use the term "friend" loosely, because this girl frustrates me more than anything, and I feel like I have to help her in some way so she doesn’t self destruct.
I met her through a mutual friend while she was 20 weeks pregnant with her son. Now he’s two months old, and I can’t stand how she treats him.
First of all, I had a party for St. Patrick’s Day at my house. I had my mom watch my 9 month old, because of course there was going to be drinking. I invited her and her husband, but I didn’t think they would actually bring their two month old! So they brought him, proceeded to get drunk, and basically passed him off to me (and I had way more to drink than they did). So I fed him, burped him, and put him in my son’s crib, before telling my husband that I was about to go pass out, and had him take over.
Since then, we have been over to their house one time, which was about a week ago. We were there for about 5 hours, and she held her son for MAYBE 5 minutes the entire time. Every time he would act hungry (and I swear to god, she has the most well behaved baby, she has no idea how easy she has it) she would get all bitchy and start pushing her husband to go take care of it.
And then they would argue back and forth for a few monutes until I was just like "Okay! Where’s his formula? I’ll do it." So long story short, I ended up taking care of him all night while I was at their house. She got off her laptop for like 5 minutes.
She’s just so freaking lazy and complains all the time and I just want to chew her out, and tell her "look, Princess, you’re a MOM. It’s about your baby, and not you being on your stupid laptop all damn day." I have nothing against young moms, becuase I am one. However, she’s 18 and I was 20 when mine was born.
I also hate how she sticks her finger on his chin and like forces his mouth to move, pretending to make him talk. He hates it! He stayed in his hammock like 90% of the night when I wasn’t holding him or feeding him.
Anyway…what the heck do I do about this?! She’s having her birthday party in two weeks, and she already told me that she’s not getting a sitter. So her baby is going to around a bunch of drunks. I’m thinking about going, just so I can WATCH him. I’d rather leave my son with my mom for one night so I can take care of her kid. she obviously didn’t learn from MY party. I also offered to babysit for her and not even go to her party. Am I doing the right thing, or should I just NOT do anything anymore?
Perhaps I should have said "Went to bed" instead of passed out. Is that better? At least I have enough common sense to have a sitter for the ONE party I decided to have with my friends. Especially because I am of legal age to drink and she is not? Also, neither of us is breastfeeding. My son will be 10 months soon, I don’t know what her excuse was. Oh yeah "the dog chewed up my breast pump, and nursing hurt my nipples." BOOHOO.
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