I need to gain my stepmoms trust back…?
Ok, this past summer (august) my parents, my sisters, and i went on vacation with my boyfriends family. (my parents and his are best friends) My boyfriend and i went to a hammock that was on the beach and i got in, then he laid on top of me. Well, one thing led to another, and before long he slid my bikini bottoms over to the side, then slid his down a bit and we started having sex. i was swinging the hammock back and forth, then had to stop, tyring not to make much noise, as there were people close by. Well, my stepmom came looking for us, and realized exactly what we were doing. She didnt say anything there, but when we got back to the hotel room she let us have it. i have never seen her or my bf’s mom so angry in my life. my stepmom took me to her hotel room and spanked me.(after i made the mistake of telling her that i was too old to be spanked) i was grounded for a long time, but now she doesn’t trust me, and i really want her too.
i am sixteen, this just happened in august
my stepmom and i used to be very close, we still are, but not in the since that we were. I was sixteen and my bf is 17. He will be 18 soon. we have been going out for a little less than a year, but have been friends for years. my dad and i aren’t very close, and besides, he thinks that it is my stepmoms job to disciplene. tho, he was pretty angry when he found out about this, he still said that it was up to my stepmom on what to do about it. but now my stepmom doesn’t trust me to do anything…and she hasn’t left me alone with my bf since.
and my stepmom found out when we got back home that it hadnt been the first time that i had been with him.
ok well trust is the hardest thing to gt back and its not easy either. there is no real way to gain trust back but i can give u some ideas. just let her kno what u are doing and who u r doing it wit and how long ull b gone. idk how old u r or n e thing but u need to do what ever it takes to gain this trust back.. sorry to tell yah hun. but n e way just let her kno that if she wants to talk about n e thign she can tlka to u n u want to talk to her even if its hard n…dont have sex wit ur b/f outside n e more lol wen shes around u wouldnt want her to catch u lol.. even tho thats mad sexy ….but n e way just tell her that ull do n e thign and see if she has n e ideas..*hope this helps u hun*
If you want to be trusted, understand that means you need to be trustworthy. And that will take a considerable amount of time. Do you want her to trust you so you can keep doing what got you into trouble in the first place, or are you really sincere?
wow harsh..how old r u?
I would just apologize. Than be like i really want you to trust me. than start showing her your maturity and responsible to handle her trust and to have sex.
ok what you did was wrong but things will get better trust me i went through the same thing couple years ago it took a long time but she eventually trusted me again she still loves you its just that she is upset you did something like that just do your best to stay on her good side and eventually it will work out just apologize and try not to do it again
first off, how old are you? Secondly, you need to talk to her and explain you are sexually active and get on some birth control if not already. If you are not, then know the consequences for having sex such as pregnancy and disease. I am a mom, and if you are under 16, I’d of beat yer butt too, but if you are 17 or older, that was a little immature on your part. But I would have been meaner. put it this way, I’d be sitting in the middle of you two for every date until you turn 18. And you’d be in a all girl school Missy!
the age you were when this happened matters a lot. how old are you? middle school, highschool ..? you shouldn’t have done what you did where you were at, and plus it doesn’t even sound like you used protection which you ALWAYS MUST use… stds are spreading everywhere these days…
you will have to earn her trust back and you definitly should sit down and have a talk with her about the situation.
1. owned!!!
2. It may not be possible to totally get her trust back but if you do well in school, complete all chores, become more talkative and friendly with her. All of this without complaining, and show you can manage things on your own, you can probably get back into her heart. The thing is that humans are mean and we tend to not forgive OR forget.
Hopefully things will work out, but thats what you get for doing that in public and with both your families there… crazy young people.
Marry your boy friend!!who knows???you may gain her back!!it is possible!!but needs time!!
First of all, how old are you and your bf??…How long have you been together? Need a little more info before being able to give any advice. I would say though that your stepmom was probably more hurt and shocked than mad.
how old are you??? ur step mom spanked u?? thats just plain wrong esp if ur a teenager. she shouldve talked to you about safe sex iunstead of trying to scare you. talk to your dad and tell him u messed up, but he was teen once im sure he can forgive.
TRUST??? ARE YOU KIDDING???
How about a little BIRTH CONTROL!!